We are coming into the festival of meet ups, parties, get togethers, filling people with joy and dread. Is it going to be boring or interesting? Perhaps a better question might be am I going to be boring or interesting?

The idea here would be around openess. Your conversation is predicated by the other’s openess and experience of the self. If we or the other are closed, the conversation can be boring, lacking depth.
If both are open there is a potential for connection and depth.

The same in therapy. The client at first presents a closed black and white version of themselves. Having a free space with them as the focus, sparks fear and threat. They tighten to close. Slowly they learn to release adding colour to their lives putting feelings (the body) to their presentation (the intellect)

It’s a long hard journey as openess and colour are resisted by protection mechanisms aiming to shut down and keep the psyche safe. Creating a colourful version of ourselves is painful, but allows us a more three dimensional life of feeling & depth.

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