Adrian Scott Counsellor Supervisor MBACP Accred

Agnotology is the study of ignorance. Blurring the truth, creating false data to influence us to fight each other & buy products that might not be good for us. Once a truth is undermined, and little interest shown to correct it: then sensation becomes the new truth.

Propaganda, Political influence, mistruths grow in times of collapse. A past set of truths die, leading to a nostalgic longing for a return to a perceived stability in a previous era of truths.

This works so well with humans is because our psyches thrive on ignorance. An ignorance of ourselves seals us into a view of ourselves formed in our personal cultures/families which suits the function of the group. The idea of our sureness (ignorance) in knowing keeps us alive.

This knowing poem gives us the idea of developmental stages of knowing as we grow from childhood to adulthood. Yet our ignorance would counter this. We mature through time not an awareness of our ignorance.
The passing of time/ageing does not defy ignorance. Some might say the opposite. Perhaps for the human psyche the job of dispelling our own ignorance has no purpose. Ignorance keeps us sheltered & safe.

But here we are. We find ourselves in a world where the human psyche is so stretched & torn having access to billions of social contacts with the ability to only have 150. For safety we have to hold onto our ignorance to protect us from the infinite number of views & ideas.
The world is propelled through a universal ignorance which leaves the owners of unfettered technology a clear path to ………..

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Adam is a Handsome man. Adam Handsome.
The story of his mother’s traumatic pregnancy with him, terrified cortisol flowing from her to him through their umbilical cord set the dye for an emotional life in conflict with Adam Handsome.

Social media well documents men’s treatment of women as appearance objects, with women wanting to be themselves. This dynamic cannot be swapped round with equality: but creates another set of issues.

Adam’s life experience is a mixture of adulation and fear. He finds that he is given roles to play by both men and women based on his appearance, and their interpretation of his appearance.
Men expect him to be heroic, strong, competent, successful with women within the confines of the male domain. Women expect him to be heroic, strong, nice, invulnerable within the confines of the female domain.
He fears interaction with both as no win.

Both genders expect a simplistic clear version of Adam Handsome. In therapy Adam uncovered that if he goes out of these confines: he is met with disappointment, passive aggression, a fall from grace.

He is seduced into playing the part of Adam Handsome with all its benefits. Yet the cost of not being able to be authentic – brews a lingering depression interrupted by sabotaging outbursts of anger & helplessness.
His Mother & Father treat him as a handsome object, not wishing to see the person who might remind them of this traumatic episode at the start of their married life.

Adam Handsome is caught in the Person-Handsome Loop. How will Adam Handsome find his way out?

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We think we can choose relationships. We have criteria encouraged by social media.
We think most of our decisions, but take delight when we are attracted, or fall in love through instincts. Creating a comfortable feeling that we are sure we can invest in.

The fever of love is to heighten the temperature so that we are distracted from the reality that we couple with our wounds not with what might be good for us.

We are stamped like a coin early on in our lives with early relationships & dynamics. We know nothing else. We reject anyone or anything that does not copy the stamp. The fever is to distract us from showing us the copy – making us feel like we are doing something outside the stamp.

We feel like we are being adult. Not like others. Free to choose. Independent. Autonomous.
Like the shopping cart: we reject with criteria – however unpalatable – that replays the stamp.

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Suffering is the aim of therapy. Or as Freud said a common unhappiness. Well not quite?
To suffer efficiently is to suffer in a way that suffering can be put aside.
Generally we are trapped in a pleasure / suffering loop. We reach for pleasure to avoid suffering. When pleasure is unreachable we suffer.

To be comfortable in our suffering creates a lessening of suffering but not a disappearance. But it can allow us to focus on something beyond ourselves.

Imagine your suffering self in a cinema blocking your view of the screen. We become concerned with the suffering self, blocking the screen and how it feels. We move to see the screen but our suffering moves to block the screen. At times the suffering is delayed – pleasure – the full screen in view. Only to move back into block.

If we can befriend the suffering self, it can move & sit next to us in the same row allowing more of a view of the screen. The screen creating something bigger than us.

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Laura reasoned:  “Well I hope I can change. I’m very hopeful for the therapy” 

We are told to be hopeful. Hope is one of these words that it is difficult to argue with.
To be hopeful, optimistic, is seen as a positive trait in our us, our colleagues, friends and family.

There are words brought to therapy: like love, happy, productive, married, relationship, fulfilled, progress – that have a universal meaning that we all understand & assume – but emotionally they have many different meanings.

Laura continues around the same loop of dating unsuitable men who show little interest in her. Her hope is that this will change. Without her doing anything to change it. Here hope keeps her stuck. In the same place. On repeat.

To describe hope as a social taboo is more helpful. It is a way to protect us from despair, pain, & misery. Or so society would tell us. Even in parts of this profession.

But it is exactly the avoidance of despair, pain, & misery and the hope that they will move on away from us, that maintains us in despair, pain, & misery.

Laura’s painful discovery that her investment in uninterested men is the way she was taught to view herself from a little girl. The pressure put on her to be happily married with no positive role models of that experience is defended against. To not be married is the emotional response to protect her from her dysfunctional family.
With hope alone: this will remain hidden.

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A trainee therapist in a supervision group declared: ” my client Charli tells me how helpful her sessions are, and how safe she feels with me…..” Maybe

But these kind of comments merit scrutiny. The context of the work with Charli is one of control. She tries to control everything. Her sisters’ wedding, her parents home location, her own family therapy. The therapist’s challenges are rebuffed or ignored – particularly around the extent of her control.

The rest of the supervision group were amazed at the therapist’s lack of concern at Charli’s control as though she had given up & accepted the extent of the control was quite normal.

Like an undercover agent: the therapist soon finds out who the client wants them to be: and asks them to fit in and play the client’s game. For the therapist this creates a problem. Being intelligent, skilled with a lot of money, time & effort to learn how to be a therapist. They find the client’s request for them to be compliant, controlled, a dumbing down of their character an insult. Unnatural. Stressful. Annihilating.

Yet to be safe for clients the therapist has to become one of their inner world players. Charli’s family are played, manipulated, & controlled like they have no free will against her. Afraid of the exposing of family history they comply.So the therapist is also asked to comply.

We all, like clients will go to great lengths to make people safe. Charli was threatened by the therapist’s enquiries: so made the therapist give up on the questioning to accept her controlling status quo as normal. The therapist was neutralised – and complimented by being declared helpful & safe. The message was stay neutral, don’t ask, be controlled, stay safe.

This could look like a clinical mistake – not predicting that Charli wanted a safe person who asked no questions.
But actually: with the therapist not guessing what Charli wanted: convinces Charli even more. She has neutralised a threat, creating a safe person. Her control is more powerful than just allowing an already safe person in.

Like the undercover agent the therapist has to infiltrate the client’s inner world by taking on, and becoming one of the client’s inner world characters.
Not the Therapist’s Agenda

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Few politicians subscribe to analysis (46:25) Psychoanalysis.
Well perhaps not psychoanalysis: but might be sensible for politicians in power who can direct the economy &   
take us into wars. A good idea to have a little self awareness?

The opposite seems to be true. To have the ambition of power, then the achievement of power –  a lack of awareness is essential. Personal power through self awareness roots us in ourselves with an understanding of our helplessness and lack of power. Counter-intuitively, this gives us the best chance to suffer well with our flawed personalities.

Political power is a way of avoiding this painful state by having power over others: rather than ourselves. It is a distraction, a solution, to avoid a deeply uncomfortable powerless relationship to ourselves. It can never stop.

Politicians who stand for something are seen & judged by the populations of the world. When their approach works they are lauded. When it doesn’t, they become unpopular and more significantly aren’t able to give the approach up even when failing. They become dogmatic, and have to be ousted. They are more what they stand for than who they are.

This is the human: creating strategies to navigate the world: even when those strategies stop working and fail us. With awareness there is a possibility of an update, or renegotiation with ourselves. But even with intention & energy we struggle and resist.

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In the first session Amal asked me what can I do for him: “I need some tools to keep my energy up. I want to keep my focus like I used to be able to when I was younger” I asked him how we might do this?
He said i would know.

Amal is addicted to Super Amal: the version of himself which is optimised, & idealised. Amal is running to Super Amal. The word addiction is usually applied to drugs & alcohol. But demonstrates in a broader meaning to an addiction to avoiding or numbing the self.

In the rational world Amal is running on the fuel of ambition to his best most efficient self. In the psyche world running from his own Self. We are addicted to behaviours that keep us away from ourselves. These can include extreme versions of sport, working, studying, dating, eating, sleeping and ………

The addiction is the solution to avoidance of the self
At times therapy is a reframing of the view of ourselves. If we can switch to thinking about the behaviours that we don’t want as a window into how we work. Those behaviours are our life. Giving them ligitimacy – dissipates the hot energy that fuels the numbing avoidance of the Self

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“I have never spoken to the guy: he means nothing to me. But whenever I see him I just want to stare at him: I don’t want to speak to him: I don’t want to know him. It’s so weird” Rosa cried.

An easy explanation to this is to think there is something romantic going on which is being denied or repressed. In the sexualised culture of 2026 this is a must do short cut which is over simplistic and helps us to avoid the complexity and erotic nature of humans. Our first erotic experiences are with our parents around 3-5 yrs old. This is the basis of our romantic lives which we return to – to repeat.

The erotic has a quality of attraction/familairity that is arguably more powerful than the sexual because it validates our personal past which we are largely unaware of. Think of an internal 3D psychic relief map. Of valleys and hills, villages, churches, castles, roads, pathways. Then like Freud’s iceberg underneath is a history mass of the self buried deep in the archeology of the relief map. We look at the world trying to match this relief map.

At the time of seeing this guy Rosa’s father died. She learnt that whenever she sees him the guy holds something of the event of her Father’s death. The taboo of the parental link denies a surface sexual link. But a deeper symbolic connection to an earthquake psychic event of the death of her Father.

We were both tempted to explain it. Was he like her Father? Did he remind her of her Father?
Should she try to make a connection to him? Would she marry him?
To explore the archeology of our inner relief map – let the attention wander and rest. More knowing explanation denies a deeper sensibility of who we are – out of our own sight.

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It is easy to think that the world in 2026 isn’t good. A breaking down of an old order. Democracy. War. Populism. Looking at 2026 is like watching a world breaking down.

Since the end of the two World Wars when survival overtook living. The West was so vulnerable and feared another war that agreements & institutions were set up to create stability & peace. If you were born into this time you naturally thought that this was the norm.
But in fact it is a blip.

History tells us that mostly ordinary people were ruled over by Dictators and Despots. Life was dangerous and unfair. The population was powerless and enslaved to create profit for the few. Over the centuries this was the norm. So from the elevated view from the blip we are losing: yet this has always been the way.

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