Author Archives: North London Counsellor Blog

We think we can choose relationships. We have criteria encouraged by social media. We think most of our decisions, but take delight when we are attracted, or fall in love through instincts. Creating a comfortable feeling that we are sure … Continue reading →

Suffering is the aim of therapy. Or as Freud said a common unhappiness. Well not quite? To suffer efficiently is to suffer in a way that suffering can be put aside. Generally we are trapped in a pleasure / suffering … Continue reading →

Laura reasoned:  “Well I hope I can change. I’m very hopeful for the therapy”  We are told to be hopeful. Hope is one of these words that it is difficult to argue with. To be hopeful, optimistic, is seen as … Continue reading →

A trainee therapist in a supervision group declared: ” my client Charli tells me how helpful her sessions are, and how safe she feels with me…..” Maybe But these kind of comments merit scrutiny. The context of the work with … Continue reading →

Few politicians subscribe to analysis (46:25) Psychoanalysis. Well perhaps not psychoanalysis: but might be sensible for politicians in power who can direct the economy &    take us into wars. A good idea to have a little self awareness? The … Continue reading →

In the first session Amal asked me what can I do for him: “I need some tools to keep my energy up. I want to keep my focus like I used to be able to when I was younger” I … Continue reading →

“I have never spoken to the guy: he means nothing to me. But whenever I see him I just want to stare at him: I don’t want to speak to him: I don’t want to know him. It’s so weird” … Continue reading →

It is easy to think that the world in 2026 isn’t good. A breaking down of an old order. Democracy. War. Populism. Looking at 2026 is like watching a world breaking down. Since the end of the two World Wars … Continue reading →

Celine started the session “I was very irritated yesterday at work. I spent a lot of time on a piece of work which my boss wanted really quickly. It needed a lot of work on the database which doesn’t work … Continue reading →

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