We think we can choose relationships. We have criteria encouraged by social media.
We think most of our 
decisions, but take delight when we are attracted, or fall in love through instincts. Creating a comfortable feeling that we are sure we can invest in.
The fever of love is to heighten the temperature so that we are distracted from the reality that we couple with our wounds not with what might be good for us.
We are stamped like a coin early on in our lives with early relationships & dynamics. We know nothing else. We reject anyone or anything that does not copy the stamp. The fever is to distract us from showing us the copy – making us feel like we are doing something outside the stamp.
We feel like we are being adult. Not like others. Free to choose. Independent. Autonomous.
Like the shopping cart: we reject with criteria – however unpalatable – that replays the stamp.
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