42. Crimes and Misdemeanours

Crimes and Misdemeanours
Woody Allen’s film Crimes and Misdemeanours is a morality tale about guilt. One story is about a family man, Joshua who is having an affair. His mistress threatens to expose their relationship and some dodgy financial deals to his wife, so he has the mistress killed. He is racked with guilt and remorse so turns to religion. As time passes so does the guilt, he enjoys life as before. Crimes and Misdemeanours

Operation Yewtree is investigating sexual abuse cases going back 20-30 years.
People
are being rounded up for questioning about allegations around abuse particularly in the entertainment industry.
Is there any shame and guilt for the perpetrators? If there is, does it stay or slowly fade with time to be forgotten?
The mind is a complex security system. It learns to forget and even rewrite history so the person does not suffer. But is this true for both the perpetrator and harmed person?
Crimes and Misdemeanours

The difference between the perpetrator and the person being harmed is control and power. It might be easier for the perpetrator to forget as they were the instigator of the abuse and derived some sort of outcome from it. The harmed person has to deal with the randomness of being in the wrong place at the wrong time with the perpetrator, and the sense of shame and guilt they have. This message is given so that it is their fault to keep the abuse secret. The traumas can have lasting effects for the rest of the harmed persons’ life.
Crimes and Misdemeanours

The perpetrators’ lives have continued with impunity. Have they forgotten? Has the power and control they exerted put them in a position where they can forget: or allow the memory to twist the recall of the past so that they remain blameless? It seems that we are hardwired to tolerate a lot of bad experiences, that we would rather not tolerate.

The people of Syria are going through unimaginable experiences at the moment. But does the Assad regime care? Or does it feel pushed into a survival mechanism where it is under threat and blameless? Will the regime forget what it has done?
There is some question whether the perpetrators of crimes can forget and enjoy life again like Joshua. Not so easy for the people who are harmed and abused.
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41. The Leveson Enquiry and Salty Cheese

On the same day of Lord Justice Leveson’s report on how the press is going to be regulated, a survey is published on the high salt content of cheese.
The press is obsessed by itself. It is frantically worried that it is going to be told what it can and cannot do. Its connection to the police, politicians, and the entertainment industry is its life blood, and its poison.
The Leveson Enquiry and Salty Cheese

To look at it another way it is an expose of how humans communicate unfettered by political correctness or the service nicety of the public and third sectors.
Humans huddle together to gain influence, power, or survival. It does not matter – it is the nature of humans. Like the Royal Family’s close ties to the Royal Families of the Arab states, like attracts like. Politicians need the press’ access and influence to the electorate to win power. The police want to keep in with the press to forward their aims and to cover up or turn a blind eye when things go wrong. Look at Hillsborough – the immediate press reaction was to blame the fans not the police.
Then why are we so shocked?
The marketing and selling of democracy emphasises freedom and fairness. It creates the illusion that power can be monitored and held to account. To be fair democracy appears to be able to do this but not until long periods of time have passed while blameless individuals are hurt. Democracy does not react quickly. It needs evidence of repeated failings topped with a heinous injustice such as the what happened to the Dowler family.
The Leveson Enquiry and Salty Cheese

Democracy does not react to the building pressure of low level crimes but to the peak of bad behaviour. The marketing of democracy lulls us into a false sense of fairness that is  not true.

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40. No Women Bishops

The General Synod voted to reject women bishops. No Women Bishops

The House of Bishops voted 44 for and 3 against, the House of Clergy 132 for and 45 against, and the House of Laity 132 for and 74 against.  The House of Laity scuppered the vote. Its members are not part of religious institutes or clergy. They include committed churchgoers who are unelected and chosen by the vicar on the basis that somebody has to do it.

The argument stated by members of the laity who voted against women bishops was that the unification and concept of one church was under threat: and that the church would split if women bishops were allowed. The Church is trying to be an umbrella church to many other different churches with opposing views.
The general response appears to be concern and wonderment that this can happen in the modern secular world of 2012.

But are we in danger of making the fixed assumption that organisations are always there to serve the populations stated in their mission statements and values?

It might be broadly assumed that organisations in the public and charity sectors must be like this. For example the NHS was created to provide the UK population with free health care at source. Yet “appalling” examples of health care have been cited in today’s news.
Cuts and political ideology could be argued as a reason for this?

But then witness a Board Meeting, or senior management meeting and there seems to be other conflicting powers at work. Budgets, perception of what the organisation is, areas of change, and personalities bear down on what the organisation is trying to do. The organisation can be divided into the staff on the ground dealing with the client group and others at a more senior level have forgotten or never experienced who the client group is, dealing with reports and data. Workers dealing directly with the client group doggedly stick to their task feeling that even attending meetings is taking them away from their work. Managing the tension between these two points of view is what is demanded in these times of cut backs and ideology.

The Synod has the unenviable task of representing modernity to attract people to its cause, and working with the traditionalists. In an attempt to keep the Church unified, the politics of personalities, cultures, and countries under a Unified Church has come before the people it serves.
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39. Israel and Palestine: Group Dynamics

Israel and Palestine: Group Dynamics
The Israeli and the Palestine issue has flared up again. Egypt has now backed Gaza, and the question of war is in the news.

This conflict has been a modern issue since the British Mandate for Palestine in 1922. This ‘agreement’ promoted the division of the British protectorates – Palestine, to include a national home for the Jewish people. This area had been in control of the Middle East since the 16th Century.
Mix this with the arrogance of the British Empire in believing the world was there to cut up at its own convenience, coupled with the effects of the Holocaust of the Jews – saying that it was never going to work would be an understatement.

Political commentators link the escalation of the violence to elections in Israel and an insecurity that makes it its own worst enemy. The phrase “Own worst enemy” is generally applied to people – individuals. So perhapsan analogy of a group of people might be helpful?

The members in the group come from all over the world. The group is dominated by a sub group of  members who are wealthy and powerful. They influence the group and the rules that govern it.

Among many conflicts two group members are in constant conflict which flares up into violence periodically. Both these members have had abusive pasts unimaginable to others in the group. Other group members wring their hands partly in guilt, partly in denial, with varying degrees of support for either side: but ultimately do not want to be involved, or feel powerless.

The two group members in conflict are similar but in very different situations. Both come from a similar origin in the Middle East historically respecting and incorporating each others’ religions into their own. One has the financial backing of other powerful members of the group and lives a wealthy lifestyle; the other has less support from these group members, but has a lot of moral support from large sections of the group. This group member lives their life in hardship, poverty. Both are very, very angry with each other, constantly blaming and attacking each other.

A group facilitator would be looking at the conflict between the two group members, mindful that there is an element of a set up about this dynamic. These two members have been manipulated into this situation by the self-interest and greed of the descendants of the powerful group members.

The exploration of this abuse, and the feelings behind it might create an opportunity to keep the ‘presenting past’ back in the past so that the present situation can be looked at in a more objective way.
This element of the past never being resolved and playing itself out in the present is repetitive, and stuck. In the group the representatives of the main powerful players from the 1920s would be encouraged to stand up and take responsibility for their roles.
Unless the original hurts are addressed – the group cannot move forward.
Israel and Palestine: Group Dynamics

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38. Cycles of Democracy


Cycles of Democracy
So Mr Obama won the US election by appealing to the Hispanic vote along with women and young people. Not to be underestimated was his military like election campaign with Obama’s army of volunteers  maximising voter turnout.

His opponent Mr Romney, a multimillionaire, whose wealth & power enabled him to run a close campaign but he could not win even though at face value his business acumen looked attractive to lift the US out of financial crisis. Commentators in the US are predicting that Republicans are going to have to re-invent themselves. White middle aged men voting republican are losing influence, as their numbers decrease and Latino populations increase.

In the UK the Bishop of Durham Justin Welby is set to become the next archbishop of Canterbury partly for his business acumen, and conflict resolution skills. The Government is led by a group of privileged white male Etonians who are seen as wealthy,upper class and out of touch with the general population.
What a topsy turvy world it is!
But what does it mean? It seems the US and the UK are on different cycles. The cycle of Labour/ Conservative and Democrat/Republican are not in synch. The downturn in the UK is being governed by a conservative led coalition, and the downturn in the US being led by their first black democratic president. The UK is still in recession and the Conservatives appear no better with their apparent business edge in resurrecting the economy as does Obama with no business edge in the US.

This relationship between business and being able to improve the economy seems impractical and voting populations do not believe it. The private sector appears ineffective in job creation as it is dependent on confidence and trade, while the public sector creates jobs from an ideology at times out of touch with the economic environment.

Perhaps this is the difference: ideology versus business is what differentiates the governing parties in the free world. The business people would say that money and wealth enhances everyone’s life while the ideologues say it benefits the business people more: benefitting everyone else is a side effect.

Are you republican or democrat, conservative or labour? Are you motivated by money, ideology or both? How did you get there? Was it your family, experience, or choice?
Lets hope we never find out – as Obama’s volunteers might have exploited it!
Cycles of Democracy

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37. Communication in Cultures

Communication in Cultures
Patients arriving for an advice appointment at a local charity located in a large NHS building are turned away. The NHS reception staff haven’t heard of the charity, even though the charity has been in the building for 18 months. Is this just a lack of knowledge, communication or a difference in culture?

The culture only hears what the culture recognises. The NHS is a large scale organisation set up in a hierarchy and departments. The charity is a small stand- alone organisation supporting residents in the local community. It would be unusual for a patient to enter the NHS saying they were asking for advice, the phrase which the NHS reception staff might not have understood. They would be more familiar hearing a visit to the GP, or the name of a department.

NHS communications are run through meetings of departments which have a treatment link: there is no natural link for a charity giving advice in an NHS situation, so the charity remains invisible in meetings and communications.
The issue of culture between the public sector and the voluntary sector remains.

This idea can be expanded to different cultures within cultures. The voluntary sector runs charities with Boards of Trustees. These are volunteers who give their time to what the Voluntary Sector calls Governance. Governance is strategic not operational. The Board gives leadership to the organisation through mission statements, aims and objectives, and governs the finances. The Board and the CEO steer the charity in a constantly changing financial and political environment.

There is an obvious tension between the CEO and the Board which can be exasperated with a difference in culture. Some trustees will have skills that are not linked to the business of the charity. They might be business people, in Advertising, Finance, HR, or law. They are there to give back something to their local community by offering these skills which would be unaffordable to many small charities.

If the charity provides support services to students in schools, then there can be a tension in cultures between what the charity is doing compared with the trustee lawyer who is trying to focus on finance. Questions on finance might not be understood by the CEO or staff because their focus is on service delivery.

The issue of power is also present: in that the trustees are volunteers who effectively employ the salaried CEO. It is not an equal relationship so the both sides have to facilitate a professional common ground.

CEOs understandably do not want trustees meddling in operational issues, and trustees want to use their different skills to forward the aims of the Charity. For either side to say that they do not understand, or do not have the skills takes courage, skill, and confidence. The key to this is the relationship between the Chair of Trustees in giving a clear consolidated view of what the Board needs, and the CEO and senior staff explaining what abilities and resources they have to provide this.
This is easier said than done!
Communication in Cultures

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36. Introduction to the Unconscious

What is the unconscious? Do you believe in it? How is it relevant today? The most obvious place to start is the supermarket. Clever sales techniques such as the smell of baking bread as we go through the door, or the way products are placed and constantly moved around the store so that we buy them. Subliminal messages encourage us to buy things that we do not need, usually to support a life style that we are buying into.

Go and watch Derren Brown suggesting a product logo to two marketing men, who end up creating an image that he had previously drawn. We are all open to suggestion. The Unconscious would argue that we are open to suggestion far more effectively subliminally than we are consciously. After all the conscious has so many rules and regulations to stop you buying something it is more effective to bypass it!

Packaging is a good example. The way the product is packaged can make or break the sale. Twenty years ago opening the box of your apple computer was a revelation. It had pictures of colourful flight balloons all over the front with a welcome message hoping you would enjoy your apple mac inside. Unheard of when all you expected were a set of instructions. The colour and the way it was manufactured made you think it had been created for you!

Freud discovered the unconscious in the freaky city of Vienna in the late 19th Century. A city full of creative ideas with a submissive female population of servants employed in households run by dominating authoritarian men. A man of his time he was sexist, got it wrong and fell out with anyone who did not agree with him. Yet the unconscious survives today, with the daily Freudian slips, and references to childhood influencing adulthood.

Then Jung’s idea of the Collective Unconscious: a shared history of humanity might neatly explain the idea of history repeating itself. Why do we not learn from history? Like our own individual lives the repetition might be telling us something that we choose to ignore.

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35. Obama shops in stores while Romney buys them! North London Counsellor Blog 2012 19th October 2012

The choice of politicians in the US presidential election appears polarised.

On the one side we have the first black president Barack Obama of the US tainted by the over expectation of providing a new world for fairness and racial equality while presiding over an economic recession. On the other Mitt Romney, a multi-millionaire investment banker who is seen to side with the rich. His main ticket is having the business acumen to secure the future of the American dream by putting the economy back on its feet.

What about the element of choice so widely promoted in the 21st Century West? There seems no choice to vote for somebody in the middle. Is this due to the polarised nature of the US? The divide between haves and have- nots? Middle America and the metropolitan coasts? Rich and poor? Black and White? Does a market economy create these opposites or is it the nature of the American psyche? The US is a country of extremes.

After all young children live in a world of extremes. Happy and sad. Right and wrong. Yes and no. How do children develop and mature to gain more appreciation and sophistication of the middle ground or the grey area as adults? Our parenting and families are crucial in this endeavour. The complexity of trying to help children to maturity for a tolerance of extremes but to understand that this can be a simplistic or over simplified view of the world is sometimes not managed.

Is it fair to say that the over -simplicity of the US’s reflection of itself is part of the creating opposites? Before the attack on New York in 2001 this argument might have carried more weight. Since then the country has been going through a decade of introspection leading to doubt and anxiety.
Perhaps this is important? Being introspective helps awareness but it is an awareness gained about the two sides of human nature: strength and fragility.
The last UK election seemed not to be so polarised with Blairism and Thatcherism sharing many similarities. The electorate was not being able to decide which to vote for because of being so similar. The UK has a history of self-deprecation alluding to weakness without directly talking about it. Is this the sign of a country which has been around for longer witnessing the ups and downs of politics and history?
Perhaps, perhaps not.
It is not just experience that brings people to the middle ground: but a thinking and studying of that experience.
Obama humorously commented on the polarity of the two US Presidential candidates: he shops in stores while Romney buys them!

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34. Jim’ll Fix it in Vienna 1900 North London Counsellor Blog 2012 12th October 2012

Sadly again another case of abuse and people knowing what was going on but nothing was done, has emerged. Another incident where the people at the top of the organisation knew what was happening but did nothing about it. Perhaps ‘did’ is the wrong word: they did something and were not listened to, or were not able to – afraid for their careers, reputations and families.

Hillsborough, News of the World, The Libor are some of these types of scenarios played out in the last few months. Thankfully it seems that the world in 2012 is less tolerant than it once was of young girls being abused. The culture has changed. Some of these situations  have been ongoing for 10-20 years. It takes that long for a culture to change and then catch up with itself.

Vienna in 1900 was similar. Men were men: a world dominated and shaped by men for men. A rigid social structure, a sexually fired culture capped, (go on a course!) a taboo on sex, and live in female domestic servants set the scene. In this environment Freud created his theories of the mind, realising that “hysteria” in his female patients might be the trauma of sexual abuse. But he couldn’t quite put it like this. It was not acceptable, he would not be believed and hurt. His ideas would not pass the social mores of the period, nor the keen eye of the medical establishment where science was sanctified as an evidence based approach.
No evidence – no go.

At the heart of both these scenarios is the worth of women and young girls. Or is it?
If young boys were being abused would anything different have happened?

Perhaps the dynamics of abuse are not about gender but power. Having power might include being able to create a culture that covers up whatever has been done and avoid scrutiny. There are many examples of men and women who have power, and come to expect that power affords you privileges and benefits that are unimaginable to the everyday person. Most respect this power but “Absolute power corrupts absolutely
This abuse of power creates the need for a dogged press, good at ferreting out powerful peoples’ misdemeanors yet comes with the exposing of celebrities and their relationships  as entertainment.
It is human nature not to want to expose ourselves to threat and danger. We have to be confident that there is some reward to being open and speaking up: to be believed, to be taken seriously, and not be hurt.

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33. Website Crash

Website crash, lost mobile, email account down?
This is when you learn about the modern relationship to technology.
Today in the 21st Century everyone is so reliant on technology that being without is unbearable. When the technology lets us down or meddling users interfere with its working, there is a feeling of loss.

But is it that modern? The objects we covet change during the decades. Each Christmas there are top toys for boys and girls linking that year to memory. Last year it was lead by movies Cars 2 and Transformers 3, plus the obligatory Justin Beiber singing doll. These trends place us in a time of fashion and technological advance. Go along to the Museum of Childhood in Bethnal Green, London to be reminded.

According to D.W.Winnicott children all need things to help them through the years. Winnicott called them transitional objects. They are held on to and then discarded when the next transitional object comes into place. These objects carry children through the years of challenging development, as a constant source of comfort, and stability. The older child looks back at their transitional objects with remembering, and disbelief.

To synch products with development around a season in the depth of winter is a clever ploy. When was Christmas not related to products and selling? The marketing men have made sure that we are not aware of the gradual change so that it seems a natural.
Yet the pressure on parents and families to afford these products is immense. Peer pressure from school friends and other families to keep with the accumulation of products is pervasive, pushed on by the force of shame!

As adults this seems to continue. The stages of decades that adults go through are accompanied by the fashion objects of choice. Objects have become products. The intuition and manipulative intelligence of the marketing industry pushes these products towards us.

Perhaps if it were not technology, people would have to find something else to see them through the seasons. It used to be the rituals of the tribe, village, and town marking the changes of the seasons. The release of the latest of mobile is a ritual itself: not related to the seasons, but down to how fast the product can be developed and produced, and  usually in time for the last quarter of the year before Christmas.
Website Crash

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