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A colleague was telling me how she liked this psychoanalyst author’s articles and books             There is something neat and packaged about his case studies. The person being analysed seems disguised but real. The problem disguised … Continue reading →

One of the trainee counsellors told the supervision group about their client who she didn’t know how to work with. She didn’t know what to do. On reflection she said it felt like the client had had Enough. So what … Continue reading →

This clip speaks for itself As a reminder – that times pass into old times: as today will            Copyright Adrian Scott North London Counsellor Blog 2025 All rights reserved Disclaimer: This weblog is the view … Continue reading →

Enjoy life.                                                                              … Continue reading →

Rivers are dying so give them rights: apparently this is the new radical. To give inanimate objects rights: or to assign an individual to speak for the river appears fanciful yet we are doing this all the time. With animals, … Continue reading →

Lukas started the session: “I am guessing that your Father might have fought my Grandfather in the war” Therapists are afraid of these sort of comments – frightened that they are going to get drawn into a conflict. Conflict though … Continue reading →

Don & Maria sit in silence in front of me. Don had shouted at Maria after she accused him of stonewalling. Both look at me to take their side in the fight. They have come to couples therapy for a … Continue reading →

Sarah arrived 15 minutes late. She announced: ” I wanted to come on time but I just couldn’t” Silence …… She continued “Whatever we talk about here I go over it in my head. I critique what I said and … Continue reading →

With the culture of patriarchy as a counterpoint – men as discussed here before do not have an emotional fluency to keep them afloat. The frameworks of male friendship rest in accompanying, physical connection, turning up, heirarchical humour, putting down, … Continue reading →

Enquiring clients often want to test out the fit they are going to have with their potential therapist.    The question is how much of a fit? To take the two extremes: the therapist who is exactly like you, agrees … Continue reading →